We keep getting the conversation about emotional labor wrong. The real issue in many marriages isn’t who does more—it’s who is carrying the responsibility for meaning, direction, and attention in the shared life. This essay reframes women’s exhaustion as existential labor, explores how anxiety emerges when one partner is left holding the future alone, and argues that fully inhabiting marriage would form—and benefit—both partners

For busy moms who feel invisible beneath the weight of “Mom,” this post is a gentle invitation to soul care—not as a to-do, but as a quiet, defiant act of remembering yourself. Through honest reflection, shared stories, and small, possible practices, discover how to make peace with who you are now, and trust that the rest of you is never truly lost.