What Happens in a Repair & Rebuild Intensive?

When trust is broken by an affair, a secret, or any betrayal, the world tilts off its axis. Suddenly, even small conversations feel loaded, and it can seem impossible to know what’s real, what’s possible, or even how to breathe. It’s a lonely, destabilizing place to be.

But you don’t have to make sense of it alone.
When you’re in the middle of a marital crisis, having a caring, compassionate and skilled guide can help you chart a path forward.

A Repair & Rebuild Intensive isn’t about erasing the past or rushing toward forgiveness. It’s a structured pause—a place to catch your breath, take stock, and begin to map out where the pain is sharpest, what’s at stake, and whether hope can be found beneath the rubble.

As a therapist trained in Level 1 Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—the gold standard for couples work—I’m equipped to guide you through these vulnerable conversations with both structure and deep compassion. EFT is rooted in attachment science, helping couples understand the patterns beneath their pain, and chart a way back to safety and connection (if both partners choose that path).

What to Expect

1. A Slow, Contained Start
Before we meet together, I’ll check in with each of you individually to understand what you’re carrying, what you need for safety, and any boundaries or ground rules that matter most. We’ll begin the session by naming intentions, limits, and the shared hope—whether that’s clarity, stability, or simply space to speak.

2. Making Room for Pain
There’s no rushing past the hurt or minimizing the loss. You’ll each have a chance to name what happened, what hurts, and what you wish your partner could understand. We’ll use trauma-informed pacing—making sure no one is overwhelmed or pressured into forgiveness or decisions.

3. Mapping the Territory
Together, we’ll gently explore what’s at stake—how the betrayal has affected each of you, what trust means now, and what both of you need in order to feel safe enough to take a next step. We’ll talk about boundaries, repair, and the conditions under which hope can (or cannot) begin to grow.

4. Stabilizing the Ground
The goal of this intensive isn’t to fix everything in a day. It’s to create a stable place to stand—a sense of clarity, a roadmap for what comes next, and concrete agreements for safety, communication, and support. Sometimes that means agreeing to pause, sometimes it means naming what’s required for rebuilding.

5. Leaving With Tools and Support
You’ll leave with practical materials—worksheets, book and podcast recommendations, a plan for self- and couple-care, and referrals for ongoing support with a specialist if needed. You won’t walk out alone, or without direction.

Who Is This For?

Repair & Rebuild Intensives are for couples who:

• Have experienced a breach of trust (infidelity, secrecy, financial betrayal, or any rupture that shakes the relationship’s foundation)

• Feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unable to talk safely without support

• Aren’t sure whether to stay together, but want to move out of limbo and into clarity

• Need help creating safety, structure, and a path for honest conversation

You don’t need to have all the answers, or even be sure you want to stay. This is simply a chance to find your feet, name what matters, and begin—slowly—to decide what comes next.

If you’re ready to take a breath, look at the landscape, and make the next right step—reach out. This isn’t about perfect healing; it’s about creating the ground where real repair can begin.

Cost: $450 (includes all materials)